Dear Classmates,
A recent disagreement i recently experience is in my personal life, with my husband. We would not manage to resolve a problem together. Our communication had been in- existent with time to avoid conflicts.
We started to see a marriage counselor who taught us how to communicate effectively by avoiding a judgmental approach which brings defensiveness, and by trying to be more vulnerable when expressing our feelings or concern. It is still new to us, but it brought a fresh new air in our marriage. Communicating effectively is an important thing. I can testify that effective communication reduced "violence" in our conversations and relationship, as of the NVC purpose states that it is important to create human connections that empower compassionate giving and receiving (NVC. Concepts). Now when we make an effort not to judge one another, we demonstrate compassion.
Reference
Nonviolent Communication. http://www.cnvc.org/Training/NVC-Concepts
Marlene,
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you and your husband went to see someone so that you both could have positive interactions and conversations with each other. I know so many times with my husband, I know in my head I want to scream or roll my eyes when he does something that I find crazy or nerve wrecking. I don't want to be that screaming witch of a wife and start yelling so I try to always take a deep breathe and really think about what I want to say so that I don't emasculate him. I like how in our reading this week we talked about productive conflict and how both parties can come to a positive conclusion that works for both partners, and in our Nonviolent communication article where the author states that we have to take responsibility for our communication to others and talk to each other to build positive relationships. It sounds like you and your husband on the right path to building up on that. Thank you for sharing your story.
Kimberly
Reference:
O'Hair, D., Wiemann, M., Mullin, D. I., & Teven, J. (2015). Real communication (3rd. ed). New York: Bedford/St. Martin's
The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The Center for Nonviolent Commuication. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/
Dear Kimberly,
DeleteI really appreciate your comment. Yes we have to make sure we do not emasculate them... it is a very big responsibility. I used to find it hypocrite to not say things as they come in my mind... but again when someone is upset, what comes out is rarely positive. keep it up... we are on the right track !!!
Marlene,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your experience. I am glad to know that you and your husband been was able to seek help and work through your differences. I must say that communication is the key to working through any problems especially within relationships. I took alot of notes from this week's reading materials because it provided great insight that I can benefit from within my personal life as well as within my profession.
Kiara
Yes Kiara,
DeleteThat is so true... communication is everywhere as it is written in the textbook. I should take notes too... all the best Kiara we are acquiring important things which we must practice.